Self Test
Where You Are on the Path toward Forgiveness...
Desire for Revenge
0: You're free.
8: You're hot for revenge.
Your Score: 0 Freedom from Obsession
0: You're free
8: You're obsessed.
Your Score: 2 Ability to Affirm the Person Who Wronged You
0: You cannot affirm the person.
8: You do affirm the person.
Your Score: 6 Reaching Beyond Self
0: The person is not in your prayers.
8: You're working with God to forgive.
Your Score: 6 Feelings of Compassion or Acceptance
0: You don't feel care, compassion, or acceptance.
8: You feel care, compassion, and acceptance.
Your Score: 6
...And the Path to Reconciliation
Avoidance
0: You hold the person close.
8: You live as if the person does not exist.
Your Score: 2 Conciliation
0: You're not actively working for reconciliation.
8: You're working hard at reconciliation.
Your Score: 6
Remember: Forgiveness is a gift that you can give anyone - the dead, the dangerous, or even The Big Creep - at any time, without strings. And such a gift may be the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. Reconciliation, however, is not always possible or even desirable. For example, you can forgive someone who has battered you, but your safety requires that you keep away. Or you may forgive a compulsive gambler, but never loan them money. So forgiveness is always a good first step, but the next step, reconciliation, takes careful consideration because it takes two.
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